Before sharing news about the birth of my book, I thought I’d share the story behind the birth story…
When I first started blogging, many years ago, I was given this advice:
“Once you begin blogging, be consistent. Consistency can mean once a day, a week or a month, but be consistent.”
I followed that advice for many years. My intention in blogging was to provide you with sound parenting advice, and inspire you to be the parent you want to be (and your child needs you to be)… while not overwhelming your inbox with too many emails!
And then my writing took on a new form. My blog posts became my weekly Wholehearted Parenting Radio podcast blogs. My intention remained the same. I wanted to provide you with parenting information and inspire you to find your own answers to your parenting questions.
After years in my private practice, working with many families, I began to notice a common theme. Mothers in particular were on a journey, one that seemed to lead them on an endless search for answers—external answers. Wanting to be a good mom, yet always wondering what they needed to provide their children, not only physically but emotionally. They often doubted themselves and hoped they were showing up for their kids in a heartfelt meaningful way. I’ve heard many moms say, “I don’t want to get motherhood wrong…I only have one chance to get it right!” (no pressure right?).
I also noticed the endless questions from my clients about which parenting book to read…the perfect book that would provide the answers they’d been searching for. The answers that would help explain their child’s behavior. The answers that would guarantee they would know how to raise a caring responsible child.
My answers were always the same…
“You’re not going to find one book that explains your child’s behavior.”
“You’re not going to find one particular book to give you the exact steps you’re looking for.”
While I often suggested several books, I also reassured them there were no perfect answers…and there was no way to be a perfect parent. At the end of each session I reminded them that they had their own inner knowing and could find the answers once they began to really listen to their inner voice.
I believe and have told many parents…
“You are your child’s best parenting expert. I’m only here to help you find the answers you’ve been looking for.”
Over the years, I’ve also met too many mothers carrying a heavy load of “Mama’s Guilt”… If I’d only known… If I’d only done it differently… If I could go back again and mother my children when they were little, I’d do it differently. And yes, I too have held onto that guilt at times.
I’m telling you this back story because it’s led me to where I am today, but first…
Nine years ago, I opened my mouth and said “I’m going to write a book for moms”
I quickly looked behind me to see who said that! Not me! “I’m not a writer… I’m not good at writing!”
Well, after lots of soul searching (and procrastination) I realized this book needed to be written and I was the one to write it. Not that there needed to be another parenting book on the market. There were already over 72,000 books when I began to write. Yet, most asked parents to focus on their child’s behavior. I wrote Mothering with Courage specifically for moms to focus more on themselves and empower them to find their own answers. To no longer feel the need to search outside themselves, but to ask the important questions and discover what really matters to themselves and their family.
So I wrote…and wrote…and wrote.
I wrote for all the mamas on this beautiful and jumbled journey of motherhood. I wrote for new moms, moms in the trenches, older mothers and grandmothers. I wrote to help moms learn to self-reflect and make choices moment to moment, day to day. And to remind you, wherever you are on your journey of motherhood, it’s never too late to make meaningful choices as a mom. To discover your own answers within and mother from that space. To know as a mom you’re doing the best you can, because as Maya Angelou stated “When you know better, you do better”.
Finally (phew!), I’m excited to announce that my book Mothering with Courage will be released out into the world on May 9, 2017 (5 days before Mother’s Day!).
I am honored and grateful to be on this journey with you. I too am a mom (of four adult kids) and a Gramma to three beautiful granddaughters. And yes, I am still on this journey of motherhood.
Please join me along with many other courageous moms and begin to find your own answers.
And let’s support each other in remembering that we’re doing the best we can!
Let’s put an end to Mama Guilt…and embrace our beautiful mama selves.
It takes courage to show up as a mom… courage to recognize what’s important to you and your family and be willing to let the rest go.
You already have the answers within… and Mothering with Courage is here to help you find them.
Praise for Mothering with Courage:
Author of “The Conscious Parent” and “The Awakened Family”
Soon I’ll be blogging excerpts from my book, along with journaling prompts… and I promise future blog posts will be shorter (I know you have very busy lives!) In the meantime, I’d be grateful if you’d consider pre-ordering Mothering with Courage as you continue your journey as a courageous mom!
And if you know of a special mama on the journey of motherhood, please offer them a copy for Mother’s Day!
Here’s to Mothering with Courage!