PARENT CHALLENGE-Focus on Yourself and Watch Your Kid’s Behavior Change!

I’m about to share something with you that will either make you very unhappy or set you free. Are you ready? If you are struggling to find a sense of fulfillment, peace, happiness, and joy in your parenting right now, here’s the truth… Until you look beneath and beyond your child’s behavior, you will continue to be frustrated in your efforts to “get” your child to behave! And the more you try to control your child’s behavior, the more their behavior will persist. When you learn to focus more on yourself and less on your child’s behavior you’ll begin to see amazing changes. I know you might be saying I […] Read more »

WANT A MAP TO PARENTING?

ARE YOU FEELING LOST IN PARENTING…AND NEED A COURSE-CORRECTION IN YOUR PARENTING JOURNEY? DO YOU PROMISE YOURSELF YOUR GOING TO MAKE POSITIVE CHANGES BUT FIND YOURSELF FALLING BACK INTO OLD HABITS? YOU’RE NOT ALONE! MANY PARENTS EXPERIENCE SIMILAR FEELINGS. Parenting can be full of joy…and a lot of hard work! Most parents I know want to be the best parent for their child and have good intentions… yet seem to get lost along the way. They become overwhelmed, distracted and just plain worn out. Some brave parents even admit their kids have simply worn them down! Parents often begin to doubt their own ability or just throw their hands up […] Read more »

PLEASE JOIN MY GLOBAL VILLAGE

Do you feel like you’re parenting alone sometimes? They say it “takes a village” to raise a child. Many years ago that was true. Villages and communities were there to support families. Children were often nurtured by many. And parents were supported by others. Our modern times have led to more isolation. Many extended families live far from each other and schedules are busier than ever. It is my intention to offer support to families. I believe it does take a village so I’ve created a virtual village… Wholehearted Parenting Community. This is a free online parenting community that I facilitate to help parents with their daily parenting issues and […] Read more »

CHILDREN ARE ACCEPTING OF OTHERS

Every day that I’m with children, personally and professionally, I’m reminded that they are much less judgmental than adults. They are especially good at forgiving. I often remind parents that a child’s ability to forgive works in our favor. When you’ve made a mistake as a parent, rather than holding onto your feelings of guilt, apologize to your child and then appreciate the fact that they are gifted with the ability to let go and forgive. Each day is a new day and another chance, as a parent, to get it right! Your children and teens are watching you…watching how accepting you are of yourself and others. Watching how you […] Read more »

YOU ARE YOUR CHILD’S BEST PARENTING EXPERT

You know your child far better than any other person ever will. And although there are many “experts” in the world, I believe you are your child’s best parenting expert. But more importantly, do you believe that? How might your journey as a mom change if you held this belief? Many moms I’ve observed and have worked with doubt their own ability. As a result, they look outside themselves for answers. There is a plethora of parenting information on the internet, in books, and in your daily interactions with friends, colleagues and family. Many moms have shared with me that they no longer read parenting books. They report that after […] Read more »

I’M A HOPE GENERATOR

“ “Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up. ” ~ Anne Lamott I’M A HOPE GENERATOR Recently, I’ve noticed a common theme in my work with parents. Often at the end of our first session together parents say, Thank you for giving me hope. I’d never thought about the importance of hope in my work with parents. But it dawned on me that without hope we are hopeless. And when we are hopeless, it’s difficult to take action. And without action, we’re […] Read more »

The Tsunami of Self-Care

“Self-care is not about adding something to your to-do list. It’s about cultivating a kinder, gentler relationship with yourself.” ~ Renée Trudeau, author and coach Mothers who protect their self-care time recognize positive effects on their children’s emotions and behavior as a result of making their own health and relaxation a priority. Your gift of self-care will have a positive effect on your entire family! Self-care is about honoring yourself. So whether your self-care involves caring for your body (a massage, a walk, meditation, a date with a girlfriend or significant other) or soul (speaking your truth, walking away from a relationship that no longer serves you, listening to your […] Read more »

SCHOOL IS OUT… WHAT ARE YOUR KIDS TEACHING YOU?

“A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.” ~Paulo Coelho SCHOOL IS OUT…WHAT ARE YOUR KIDS TEACHING YOU? Now that school’s out, are you wondering what to do with your kids? While also trying to make sure they don’t forget what they learned in school this year? I remember buying summer workbooks for my own kids during the summer in hopes of keeping their reading and math skills fresh in their minds. Although your child’s intellectual ability is important, what about their other forms […] Read more »

HOW WILL YOU RESPOND?

“The sign of great parenting is not the child’s behavior. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent’s behavior.” — Andy Smithson HOW WILL YOU RESPOND? Over the past few weeks, I’ve emphasized the importance of self-care. I hope you’ve begun to incorporate small bits of self-care into your day. Even a short 2-5 minute time period has an amazing impact on your well-being. Stepping outside and taking long deep cleansing breaths while looking up at the sky is a wonderful way to help calm your nervous system…kind of like a reset button. Listening to a song can lighten your mood, and dancing to a song can kickstart your […] Read more »

Giving Your Kids the Gift of “Calm”

Giving Your Kids the Gift of “Calm” “It’s all about finding the calm in the chaos.” — Donna Karan In the busyness of our daily lives, calm seems to elude us. As we witness the chaos in today’s world, calm seems foreign to us. Our nervous systems are on overload. And reactivity seems to be the norm. We observe individuals crying out— wanting to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Yet, as their voice gets louder, their true essence seems to diminish. As parents, it’s easy to react to your children when not aware. You may react to their behavior rather than respond to them as individuals. If you see this […] Read more »